I think a lot of times we want to fix things…we want to rescue people…we want to be able to stamp our name on it/them and say "I did that". We want to wear our capes and puff out our chests. We want to hold our trophies high so everyone can see them and congratulate us on our victory. We want to win this person over, or change that situation to be in our favor. All in the name of being "supportive", a "friend", "nice"…etc. But, I don't think this behavior is any of these. I call it being manipulative, I call it stroking our ego.
If we are really being supportive, really being a friend, really being nice, we won't be mad or frustrated when the outcome isn't in our favor. We won't stop talking to our friend because they won't take our advice. We won't judge someone because WE perceive they're making a big mistake. We won't cringe when situations don't change in our favor. Instead, we will be okay…because we realize that we are not God and cannot possibly see the whole picture.
We cannot judge other people and their situations. How can we say what is best for someone else? Even if someone is doing something we think is a huge mistake, guess what? The universe is helping them to learn a lesson, in their own time, in their own way. So relax. Next time you find yourself angry or frustrated because "I'm trying to be supportive and how DARE they not see I'm wearing my cape!", ask yourself…are you wearing that cape for them…or is it really just all about you???
