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04/16/2010

Almost there…

Posted by Tiko under Anxiety, Hopeless, Joy, Peace, Self-Empowerment, Spirit, Spirituality/Inspiration
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Today I’m headed to the airport, with tons of traffic, and I’m playing it real close. Not to mention, I’m also going to have to self-park, check-in, then head to my gate. It’s Friday, rush hour in Atlanta…yeah, good luck, right?

I get to the airport with a half hour till departure time. I’m still optimistic until I turn into the wrong parking lot in the wrong terminal. Oh God, please help me! A little bit of me begins to panic. Not only do I have to walk through this large parking lot to the terminal, I’ve also got to then walk to the correct terminal (if you’ve ever flown through ATL International Airport, you know this is quite the feat).

Twenty minutes left and I’ve made it to the correct terminal to find that the ticketing station for my airline is all the way at the end of the terminal! I’m still walking as fast as I can while a small voice inside says that I’m definitely gonna miss my flight. I ignore it…and keep walking. I finally get to the self check-in with fifteen minutes left to find that my flight’s been DELAYED!! YES!! Not only will I be able to make my flight, but I’ll also be able to get something to eat!

I was sooo happy and I stopped to think…what if I had given up? How many times are we almost there, but things look bleak, so we throw in the towel? And, I’m not just talking about catching a flight.  How many times do we get discouraged when something in our lives isn’t working out the way we want it to, and so we just quit? I’ve learned that when it’s something I want to really give it my all. If I’ve given it my all, and it still doesn’t work out, I have no regrets…:)

 

01/27/2010

Choices

Posted by Tiko under Hopeless, Relationships, Self-Control, Self-Empowerment, Self-Esteem
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It seems whenever we make a declaration, decision, or change of habit…immediately life throws us a test to see if we’re really serious.  Sometimes the test is obvious, other times it’s not.  When it’s not, that’s when we start sentences with the phrase, “well, technically…(insert your slippery excuse here)…”  I, too, started sliding down that slippery road to square one again, when my clever friend said…

“Just make choices that will keep you empowered…

ultimately for your highest good and good of others.”

-C.Y.

I don’t know if that did anything for you…lol.  But, for me it was an easy way to test if my choices are supporting me or pushing me down that slippery slide.  Simply asking myself the question, ‘is this choice empowering me?’, is enough to keep me on sturdy ground.

Are you making empowering choices?  Are you making choices that will propel you, lift you to the next level, and strengthen you?  Something to think about…:)

 

06/24/2009

Being Tested…

Posted by Tiko under Anxiety, Depression, Hopeless, Relationships, Religion, Self-Empowerment, Self-Esteem, Spirit
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All this year, I’ve been on a quest to really figure out what I want to do with my life.  I always had an idea, but I hadn’t really been able to pinpoint how to incorporate it into my career.  You see, I’m a person with many, many interests and talents…and it’s hard to just focus on each one, one at a time.  Perhaps I secretly believe I’m superwoman, because I somehow want to do it all.  Everything I’m setting out to do is extremely positive.  I love helping other people, I really, really do.  And, I love learning…I’m a true geek, seriously.  I know I haven’t totally shared with everyone what all these things are I’m getting ready to embark on…but, it’s awesome, trust me…;-)
 
But, I realized that as soon as I figured out what I wanted to do, and actually started making steps towards accomplishing my goal….haters have been coming out of the woodwork!!  And, it’s been really hard to deal with…to the point where I was really considering throwing in the towel and forgetting it all together.  I’ve had people forming and spreading ridiculous rumors about me, and I’ve had self-righteous, overly opinionated religious people relentlessly giving me their unsolicited opinions about me and my goals.  All of these attacks have been totally unfounded.  None of the people know me, nor do they know my personal relationship with God.
 
Long story short, I’m writing this post to encourage all of you out there that are trying to work toward your dreams.  DON’T GIVE UP!!  Sometimes, right when you’re about to come upon something great…you’re tested.  Your tested to see if you REALLY believe that your steps are ordered.  Do you really believe that God is guiding you?  Do you really believe that what’s been placed in your heart is real?  Or will you succumb to the naysayers…will you succumb to those that will judge you unfairly…will you succumb to those that don’t believe in you.  You’re being tested…will you believe in YOU, or will you believe in THEM?  
 
It’s hard…really, because I wanted to doubt everything.  But, I quickly turned to those who support me…my team of ME.  I love God, I love my friends and I love my family.  They helped to remind me of who I am, and helped me to recenter myself.  I’m back, and I’m stronger than ever.  So, don’t give up…lean on your support system, and you’ll make it through whatever test comes your way. 
 
And for all those that have experienced this…please leave some advice in the comment section!  How do you deal with the negatively while walking down the road less traveled???
 

05/12/2009

Be In Joy

Posted by Tiko under Anxiety, Depression, Gratitude, Hopeless, Self-Esteem, Spirit
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Every morning I read my daily inspirations delivered to my inbox…and this one in particular really touched me.  I’m inspired to bring more joy into the intricate parts of my day.  I hope you’re inspired to do the same…enjoy…

Morning Messages
by Peggy Black

Joy is the elixir for all things. Bring more joy into your tasks. When you radiate a vibration of joy, however mild, there is a shift in response within your body that is reflected in the response of your reality.

It can be an easy as a smile on your face as you do one of your many tasks. This will create a different message to your body and you will shift the usual stress responses to your work and busyness into a more conscious relaxed state of mind/heart.
Become aware of the stages or subtle frequencies of the emotional vibration you label joy. There is ecstasy, rapture, bliss, jubilation, delight, happiness, cheer, gladness, and pleasure. Practice the different frequencies of joy.

Be delighted. Celebrate the small wonders all around you. Rejoice with your breath. Smile for no reason, just smile into the moment. Allow new face muscles to be discovered as you smile into your concerns and worries.

Find cause to laugh, giggle, or radiate cheerfulness, practice being light-hearted, carefree, and elated about the miracles in your life or the miracles of the moment. Be happy, be bright, rejoice and enjoy. Be in Joy.

The skill of maintaining an attitude and frequency of joy is a most important skill. Imagine that you have a joy muscle and you have not exercised it enough. You need to stretch it, expand it and fully express it. Allow joy in any form to proceed you.

Smile as you answer the phone, make a meal, and pay your bills. Smile into the mirror each time you look at your image, smile at your reflection. Smile as you are falling asleep at night. Practice smiling even while you are thinking.

Place your awareness in your heart when you smile. This is a powerful alchemical practice. The simple act of smiling from your heart will attract more joy, bliss, and happiness into your life.

The physical tasks will flow easier, your body will respond by being relaxed with less stress. The worries will evaporate; the tasks will be completed with ease and grace. Joy will clear the way for incredible miracles and expansion. This is a wonderful skill to practice and use that will enhance everything in your life.

The energy field that radiates from joy will transform any experience, activity, outcome or results. Your joy will be like a healing balm to yourself and others in your life. Practice your joy in all is wondrous forms.

www.morningmessages.com

 

04/10/2009

Stop verbal pollution!

Posted by Tiko under Anxiety, Depression, Environment, Health, Hopeless, Self-Empowerment, Self-Esteem, Spirit | Tags: , , |
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Like every other day this week, my alarm has gone off at exactly 6am. My goal is to wake with the sun, lol…and do my yoga and meditation and my morning routine before work. And, like every other day this week…I’ve hit snooze and rolled over. Yes, I still do my yoga and morning routine, but it’s rushed…sigh. I get up and I say, everyday, “I’m just not a morning person.” Aha!! I’m reinforcing the negative belief that I just can’t possibly wake up early and feel good about it!

 

If we could see our words in the physical, our speech would be drastically different. Haphazard speaking, habitual sayings, and the like…would all cease. I look at the problems we have with the environment as a reflection of our problems with our thoughts, our speech, and our actions. The environmental problems are our words manifested. If our negative words were actual trash…we’d find that some of us are have a lot of “trash” all over our homes, in our cars, at work, in our purses, briefcases, etc. And, we wonder why things aren’t improving in our lives! Well, how can any positivity possibly get in when there’s all this negative “clutter” that needs to be cleared out???

We need to start “recycling” our speech. Transmuting it into positive energy…clean, crisp, fresh air we can breathe in deeply to nourish us. This positivity has the power to literally transform our lives! So, I will start with my morning banter that always gets me in the same place every time. I’ll update later with my progress. In the meantime…why don’t you give it a try?

What are you speaking that is holding you back???

 

04/03/2009

Don’t be afraid to shine…

Posted by Tiko under Anxiety, Depression, Hopeless, Relationships, Self-Empowerment, Self-Esteem, Spirit
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“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

—-from A Return to Love, by Marianne Williamson.

 

03/24/2009

Every day is a new beginning…

Posted by Tiko under Anxiety, Depression, Gratitude, Hopeless, Self-Empowerment, Self-Esteem, Spirit | Tags: , , |
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In the infinity of life where I am,
all is perfect, whole, and complete.My life is ever new.
Each moment of my life is new and fresh and vital.
I use my affirmative thinking to create exactly what I want.
This is a new day. I am a new me.
I think differently. I speak differently. I act differently.
Others treat me differently.
My new world is a reflection of my new thinking.
It is a joy and a delight to plant new seeds,
for I know these seeds will become my new experiences.
All is well in my world.

-Louise Hay

 

 

Thanks Evelyn for this quote!  :)

 

03/22/2009

3 ways to deal with negative thoughts

Posted by Tiko under Anxiety, Depression, Hopeless, Self-Control, Self-Empowerment, Spirit
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When we find ourselves holding negative thoughts and energy, many times our first reaction is to try and ignore it. We try to send those feelings to the back of our minds and focus on something else. I know for me personally, I do this because I start to worry that if I continue thinking those thoughts…not only will I drive myself crazy, but by the law of attraction I’ll create something I don’t want. The only problem with this is that if you continue to ignore your thoughts, you’re only burying them…they don’t just go away. Consequently, you may find that one day you’ll just blow up at someone for seemingly no reason at all. You can even make yourself sick, literally.

So, how do we give attention to these thoughts without driving ourselves crazy and in turn creating something we don’t want? How do we take note of the thoughts without overwhelming ourselves and becoming depressed and non-productive? I’ve found that three things help me:

1. Acknowledge the thought…accept yourself lovingly, then replace it with a positive intention. For example,

“Even though I feel like I will never find a job (acknowledging the thought),

I love myself (having compassion for yourself, unconditionally loving yourself, placing no judgements)

and I intend to have a peaceful day (positive intention).

I know that my perfect job is waiting for me right now (additional positve affirmation).”

For those of you that are familiar with EFT (emotional freedom techniques), this is a great time to practice this while you acknowledge your thoughts and state your positive intentions. Taking a nice 10 minute break from your day to peacefully acknowledge your thoughts, while taking nice, deep cleansing breaths, can really make a difference in how you feel.

2. Do something creative. When I have a lot of stirred up energy and I don’t know what to do with it…I find that channeling it into something creative really helps. This is the perfect time for me to write. Not only am I letting out my energy, but it’s producing something that’s positive and will bring joy to someone else (if I so choose to share it). What is it that you like to create? Believe it or not, we are ALL creative beings. What you create doesn’t have to be perfect, just something you enjoy. If something in your life is really bothering you…this could be a good time to take an art class, learn how to make pottery, dust off the notebook and get back into poetry, visit your local arts and crafts store for ideas, or simply redecorate a room.

3. Exercise. My exercise of choice is yoga. But, whatever gets your blood pumping and helps you break a good sweat is perfect. When you engage in a physical activity, you’re literally purging yourself of a lot of negative energy. Plus, you’re releasing many feel good endorphins. It’s a great win-win situation.

Having negative thoughts is something that we all deal with. But, from time to time, we have our moments where they become overwhelming and immobilizing. These are three tips that I’ve found to work very well in my life. Give them a try and see how they work for you…:)

 

01/18/2009

A perfect day…

Posted by Tiko under Depression, Gratitude, Hopeless, Spirit
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It's funny how we can have a perfect day, and then allow one thing, one moment, or one careless statement from another totally ruin everything.  I'm finding that no matter what I do, or say there's no guarantee I'll make everyone happy.  Sometimes I rub people the wrong way and sometimes people find me rude.  Everyone isn't going to understand me, be patient with me, or love me unconditionally.  I'm learning that I can't get mad at those persons for that either.  I can only be me, and I can only do my best.  Sometimes I'm going to fall short.  But, during those moments, it's up to me to be patient with myself, accept myself, and love myself unconditionally.  I can't let other people's opinions of me ruin my perfect day.

Another thing I've been noticing lately is I've been placed in numerous situations that totally ruffle my feathers, really make me uncomfortable, or tick me off…and simply removing myself from the situation is not an option.  For example, I have a co-worker that eats at his desk everyday and chews with his mouth open…disgusting.  Every time I fly (which has been very frequent lately), there's always something wrong…my seat is stuck and won't adjust, my personal light doesn't work, a baby is screaming the entire flight, my seat mate listens to the same song over and over and is humming at the top of his lungs, the flight is oversold, the flight is delayed, the flight is canceled, my seat mate wants to listen to his music WITHOUT headphones…I could go on.  Lately, every single customer service person I talk to REALLY hates their job and is taking it out on me.  There's just too many things like this occurring for me not to take the time and figure out what God is trying to show me.  

I'm realizing now that I've been put in all these instances to teach me something.  That is, I can't allow outside circumstances and other people to dictate my happiness.  And, I must learn to be happy anyway.  Intending to have a peaceful day doesn't mean that everything is going to go perfectly and everyone is going to be polite and say all the right things.  Instead, it means that no matter what happens, I intend to stay at peace and have a wonderful day.  No matter what happens, I intend to stay centered.

This is something that's seemingly easier said than done.  I've been borderline depressed lately because I miss Atlanta terribly.  I miss my partner, my friends, and the familiarity of being at home.  I've always been the type of person who loved to travel, explore new places, and make new friends.  But, at times I feel like in this instance, I'm being forced to do it against my will.  I know that I chose to take this opportunity for work, and I do appreciate it and I am grateful.  But, I'd be lying if I didn't admit how I feel sometimes.  All in all, I have to incorporate this new lesson.  Can I be happy and at peace even when I'm away from home and away from my comfort zone?  Can I be away from all that I know, and still…have a perfect day…?
 

11/12/2008

What I know for sure…

Posted by Tiko under Anxiety, Depression, Gratitude, Hopeless, Self-Empowerment, Self-Esteem, Spirit
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Peace comes automatically with Faith in God(Source).  When we are truly trusting in God/Source as the captain of our ship, we can truly rest peacefully through any storm.  Peace comes when we truly relax in the flow, trusting that our spirit is safely guiding us through the waters of life.  The universe is always behind us and will never forsake us, as long as we have faith.

Right now, I'm experiencing a lot of major changes in my life.  There are a lot of unknown variables in play that make me nervous.  There are times when I worry that something is going to go terribly wrong.  This is when I work feverishly to try and make a plan B and C, and then a plan D in case those don't work…lol.

But, this is when I have to remind myself who is the captain of my ship.  I quickly begin to calm down and remember that everything is under control.  All I have to do is relax in the flow, stay focused on my goals, and keep my mind's eye on the end result.  I breathe deeply and trust that everything is going to be okay.  Sometimes this is hard to do.  But, this is an opportunity to PRACTICE my faith.  In practicing, my faith increases and becomes stronger.  I'm then able to maintain my peace and have a peaceful day.

Joy is everlasting when we are truly grateful.  When we pay more attention to the good things happening in our lives…how can we be depressed or sad?  There is always something to be thankful and grateful for!  We are blessed more than we know…:)

Whenever I find myself in a funky mood, I do this little exercise that really helps to lift my spirits and bring me back to a joyful state.  I simply make a list of 5 to 10 things that I'm grateful for.  This helps me to keep things in perspective and appreciate my life…no matter what the circumstances.

Love simply is when we know who we are.  When we truly know who we are, we know that we are all one.  I am you and you are me.  When we truly treat each other as the spiritual beings that we are…we find that there's a lot more kindness to go around.  We find it easier to let things go, to have compassion, to be respectful, to have integrity, to be giving, and to be forgiving.  We find it easy to do unto others as we would want done to us.  Because, in all actually…those "others" ARE us.  We are all one, we all originate from love and we all are love.  No matter how dirty, wrong, or sinful the world may label some…we ALL deserve to be loved. 

Patience is a virtue.  This is one that I'm really working on…lol.  Some people seem to be born patient.  While others want what they want, when they want it, and they want it NOW.  I'm learning, however, that when I allow things to happen in their own time, it's usually a lot better than when I rush them.  In fact, when I'm patient, I find that my experiences EXCEED my expectations. 

You know what they say…good things come to those who wait.  It's kinda like waiting for a cake to bake in the oven.  You can bake it at the appropriate temperature for the appropriate time.  Or, you can rush it, and turn up the heat to make it bake faster.  That rarely works, right?  I'd rather have a nicely baked cake than to have one that is half good and half gooey.  And, if you're really patient, you can have some yummy icing on top!!  ;-)

 

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